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ok be honest… is he actually a green flag or am I just in love 😅
Did you try VOWWISE??
We did the Together report before we got engaged
and???
He ended up being a green flag 💚
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The question beneath the question
Everyone asks if they’ve found the right person. Few ask if they’re building on the right foundation.
Love is not the foundation. Christ is.
Start here
Know who you are in Christ before you decide who you’ll marry.
Chemistry tells you how you feel. A foundation tells you who you are. Start with five questions.
Preview · 5 sample questions
Five honest questions.
Five questions from the full foundation. Answer them and see your first reflection. Members unlock every reflection, Scripture, and a full personal report.
Your answers stay on this page. Nothing is saved or sent.
VOWWISE Stories
Real life. Real choices.
Short scenarios about the moments couples actually face. Watch, choose, and see what wisdom says.
Find your path
Where are you right now?
Three journeys · One foundation
Go where your season takes you.
15God First foundation topics
9Relationship assessment areas
8Week covenant journey
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How it works
From sign-up to I do.
No sessions to book. No awkward waiting room. Most couples see their first report within three days.
Day 1
Take your God First foundation
Answer privately, on your own time, about faith, character, your story, and what you want. Pause and come back whenever you like.
Your Foundation report is ready the moment you finish.
About 25 minutes
Day 2
Invite your partner
Send a private link. They create their own account and answer the same questions without seeing yours. Your subscription covers them.
One tap to invite
Day 3
Unlock your reports together
Once you’ve both finished, you each choose to reveal. Then the Together report, Unspoken Questions, and red flags check open at the same time for both of you.
Read together, about 40 minutes
Weeks 1–8
Walk the Covenant journey
One guided week at a time: a short lesson, Scripture, an exercise to do together, and conversation prompts. Optional: invite a pastor or mentor in.
About 1 hour a week
For singles
Single isn’t a waiting room.
The person you become now is the person you’ll bring into marriage. Build your foundation while you have the space to do it well.
You agree on more than you think. And less than you hope.
Five real examples of what VOWWISE shows you, down to the nitty-gritty. The first part of each is open. The rest unlocks when you join.
Together report
Partner A & Partner B · answered independently · 15 areas
Partner APartner B
Illustrative sample
15areas compared
8shared ground
4worth discussing
3important to explore
Have these conversations first:
Money and the debt
Growing up without a dad
Work and provision
Deep dive · Money · Important to explore Open in sample
You see money differently, and that’s worth a real conversation.
Partner A leans toward saving first. Partner B leans toward enjoying now. Neither is wrong, but left unspoken, this tends to show up at the worst moments: a big purchase, a wedding budget, a first home.
The nitty-gritty
QuestionPartner APartner B
Debt right nowANoneB“Manageable.” Student loans, a truck, two credit cards. Amount not shared.Talk
Giving and tithingA10% first, every paychequeBWhen there’s extraTalk
Bank accountsAFully jointBYours, mine, and oursTalk
A “big purchase” isAOver $200BOver $1,000Talk
Who tracks the budgetAMeBNot sure yetTalk
Buying a homeAWithin 2 yearsBSomedayTalk
Helping family financiallyAYes, within reasonBYes, within reasonShared
Credit scoreAShared itB“Rather not say yet”Talk
What this could look like in real lifeSix months into marriage, Partner B books a $600 weekend away as a surprise. B sees generosity. A sees a decision made without them. Neither of you is the villain. You just never named the rule.
Underneath the answersPartner A said money was tight growing up and that “having a cushion” is what makes them feel safe. Partner B said money was rarely talked about at home and that spending on people is how they show love. You’re both protecting something good. Start there, not with the spreadsheet.
“For which of you, desiring to build a tower, doesn’t first sit down and count the cost, to see if he has enough to complete it?”
Luke 14:28 · WEB
Talk about it
What did money feel like in the home you grew up in?
What number makes something a “we decide together” purchase?
Is giving something we plan for, or something we do when we can?
Try this together this weekEach of you write down the three biggest purchases you expect in your first year of marriage. Compare lists over coffee. Don’t solve anything yet. Just notice.
Deep dive · Family of origin · Important to explore Open in sample
Partner B grew up without a father in the home. That shapes more than either of you might think.
Partner B said their dad left when they were six, and contact since has been “a few birthdays.” Partner A grew up with both parents and described their dad as “the steady one.” You’re walking into marriage with two very different pictures of what a husband and father is.
The nitty-gritty
QuestionPartner APartner B
Who was home growing upAMom and dadBMom, and Grandma on weekendsTalk
A husband, in your wordsALeads, provides, shows upB“I honestly don’t have a picture of it”Talk
How fights ended at homeATalked out by dinnerBSomeone leftTalk
Your biggest fear in marriageANot being enoughBBeing left, or leavingTalk
Who models marriage for you nowAMy parentsB“Nobody yet”Talk
Want kids raised in churchAYesBYesShared
What this can look likeGrowing up without a father often leaves one of two patterns. Some people over-function: they plan and control so no one can leave them unprepared again. Others under-function: they aren’t sure what showing up looks like, because no one showed them. Partner B’s answers lean toward the second. They said they “freeze” when asked about long-term plans. That isn’t a character flaw. It’s a missing map.
Underneath the answersWhen Partner A pushes for plans, Partner B may hear a test they’re afraid to fail. When Partner B goes quiet, Partner A may hear “you’re not committed.” You’re both reacting to the same old wound, from opposite sides.
“A father of the fatherless, and a defender of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.”
Psalm 68:5 · WEB
Talk about it
What do you remember about the years after your dad left?
What do you wish a father had taught you?
Is there an older couple at church who could walk with you through your first years?
Try this together this monthPartner B: name one man you respect and ask him to coffee. Partner A: ask one question about B’s childhood this week, then just listen. No fixing.
Deep dive · Work, provision & drive · Important to explore Open in sample
One of you is between jobs. The real question is direction, not salary.
Partner B has been out of work for eight months. You both said you expect the husband to be the main provider. Partner B agreed, and also said, “I don’t really know what I want to do.”
The nitty-gritty
QuestionPartner APartner B
Working right nowAFull-time, registered nurseBNot working, 8 monthsTalk
Main provider should beAThe husbandBThe husbandShared
Job applications last monthA—B“A couple”Talk
Where you want to be in 5 yearsACharge nurse, home paid downB“Not sure yet”Talk
If your spouse earned moreA“Fine, as long as we’re a team”B“It would bother me”Talk
“I trust my partner’s work ethic”A2 out of 5B5 out of 5Talk
Willing to take any job for nowAYesB“Depends on the job”Close
Season or pattern?Being out of work isn’t a red flag on its own. Layoffs happen. Seasons happen. What matters is direction: Is there a plan? Is effort visible? Does the person own it, or explain it away? Partner B agrees with the provider role but has no plan to step into it yet. Partner A rated their trust in B’s work ethic a 2 out of 5 and hasn’t said that out loud.
Underneath the answersPartner B said they feel “like a disappointment.” Shame tends to freeze people, not motivate them. Partner A, pressure won’t build drive in someone. A shared plan, and your belief in them, might. Partner B, providing isn’t only income. It’s showing up, owning the problem, and leading with effort.
“In all hard work there is profit, but the talk of the lips leads only to poverty.”
Proverbs 14:23 · WEB
Talk about it
What does “provide” mean to each of us: income, presence, leadership, or all three?
If nothing changes by the wedding date, what happens then?
Partner A: what would you need to see to trust B’s work ethic more?
Try this: a 90-day planThree real applications a week. One coffee each month with someone in a field Partner B is curious about. A 15-minute check-in every Sunday night. Write it down together.
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Your partner answered. You can’t see their answers until you answer too.How it works for real couples: nothing is revealed until you’ve both finished.
Deep dive · Past relationships and what’s still unhealed
Previous engagements, what each of you is carrying from them, and what your partner deserves to know.
Deep dive · Conflict · Worth discussing
When things get tense, Partner A tends to withdraw while Partner B wants to resolve it right away. Partner A said they need about an hour. Partner B said silence feels like punishment.
Deep dive · Family and in-laws
Holidays, boundaries with parents, how often you’d see family, and who you’d call first in a crisis.
Deep dive · Intimacy and expectations
Purity before marriage, what each of you expects after, and the things that are hard to say out loud.
Deep dive · Faith at home
Praying together, church involvement, how you’d raise kids in the faith.
Red flags check · 1 pattern found
Your 30-day conversation plan, week by week.
🔒You’ve seen 3 of 14 deep dives.
Members see every area at this level of detail, the red flags check, and a 30-day plan to work through it together.
Reports summarise what each partner says about their own values. They don’t measure holiness, predict outcomes, or tell you whether to marry. They start conversations, ideally with a pastor or mentor you trust.
Foundation report
Your personal walk · for singles, dating, engaged, or married
Illustrative sample
15areas reflected on
3real strengths
4areas to grow
1part of your story to tend
Where you’re strong
Prayer & Scripture
You pray most days and read Scripture a few times a week. A steady rhythm, not just a Sunday habit.
Community
You named two people who know you well enough to tell you hard things, and you said you’d listen.
Integrity
You said your private life and public life mostly match, and you could name where they don’t.
Your story
Deep dive · Past hurt Open in sample
You said something happened in your past that you’ve never fully talked about.
When asked about painful experiences, you chose “something I’ve never told anyone,” and you said it still affects how you trust people. VOWWISE never asks for details. But your answers around it say a lot.
The nitty-gritty
Something painful you haven’t talked aboutYes, from my teens
Who knows about itNo one
How it shows up now“I don’t let people get too close”
When someone raises their voice“I shut down completely”
Ever talked to a counsellorNo. “I didn’t think it was bad enough.”
Does your partner know“Some of it”
Why it mattersHurt that’s never spoken doesn’t stay in the past. It tends to show up in how we trust, how we fight, and how we receive love. Shutting down when voices rise probably started as a way to stay safe. It made sense then. It may be costing you now.
Before you get engagedYour future spouse doesn’t need every detail, but they deserve to know the shape of your story, and how it affects the way you love. A pastor or counsellor can help you decide how and when to share it.
“Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit.”
Psalm 34:18 · WEB
One stepTell one safe person that there’s something you’ve never talked about. You don’t have to tell them what. “Not bad enough” is one of the most common reasons people wait years for help they deserved sooner.
VOWWISE is not counselling or therapy. If what happened involved abuse, or it still feels heavy, please talk with a Christian counsellor. If you’re ever in danger, call 911.
Where you want to grow
Deep dive · Forgiveness Open in sample
You named holding on to old hurts as something you carry.
That honesty matters. Forgiveness isn’t pretending it didn’t happen. It’s releasing the debt to God, often more than once, so it stops steering how you love the people in front of you.
The nitty-gritty
Holding a grudge right nowYes, with a family member
Last time you apologized first“I honestly can’t remember”
When someone wrongs youGo quiet, then replay it for days
You think forgiveness meansForgetting it ever happened
Someone you’ve never forgivenYourself, for something in the past
Underneath the answersYou described forgiveness as forgetting. That may be why it feels impossible. You can’t make yourself forget. You can choose, with God’s help, to stop collecting the debt. And the person you’ve found hardest to forgive is you.
“Bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do.”
Colossians 3:13 · WEB
Try this for 7 daysWrite down one name. Pray for that person by name every day this week. You don’t have to feel it yet. Obedience usually comes before the feeling.
Blind spot Open in sample
You rated your patience 4 out of 5. You also said you snap at people when you’re tired, most days.
VOWWISE looks for places where your answers don’t line up. This isn’t a gotcha. Most of us see ourselves at our best. The people closest to you usually see you at 9 p.m.
Who sees you at your most tired? What would they say?
What usually happens right before you snap?
Deep dive · Self-control
Phone use at night, spending when stressed, and what you reach for instead of prayer.
Deep dive · Identity in Christ
You tend to measure your worth by how a relationship is going. Here’s what Scripture says instead.
Patterns to watch in yourself
You said you’d overlook a red flag if you really liked someone.
Your Scripture plan for this season
A 4-week reading plan built around your growth areas, with one journal question each day.
Before you get engaged
Six questions to settle with God before you say yes to anyone.
🔒3 more growth areas, your patterns to watch, and a Scripture plan.
Members get the full 15-area foundation at this depth, plus the questions to settle before engagement.
Unspoken Questions
There are questions your partner has never asked you out loud
Illustrative sample
Future · Question 1 of 8 Open in sample
Where do you see us living in five years?
Partner AClose to my family. I want our kids to know their grandparents.
Partner BWherever the best opportunity is. I’m open to moving.
Different answers · talk about this
Faith · Question 2 of 8 Open in sample
What does a normal Sunday look like for us?
Partner AChurch in the morning, then lunch with family.
Partner BChurch, then a slow afternoon at home, just us.
Close · small difference to name
The hard one · Question 3 of 8 Open in sample
Is there something about your past you’re afraid to tell me?
Partner AYes. I’d rather say it in person.
Partner BYes. I’d rather say it in person.
What VOWWISE does with thisNeither of you has to type it out. You both said there’s something. The report gives you a guided way to have that conversation, at your pace, and the option to invite a pastor or mentor in.
Dealbreakers
You each named three dealbreakers. Two overlap.
You both saidNot following Jesus · Unfaithfulness
Only Partner A saidNot wanting children someday
Only Partner B saidMoving far from my parents
How many kids do you want, and when?
Partner ATwo or three, soon after we marry.
Partner BMaybe one, after a few years.
Who will handle the money?
Partner AWe’d do it together.
Partner BI assumed you would.
🔒5 more questions, plus the dealbreakers you didn’t share.
Kids, in-laws, intimacy, money, and what you’d never compromise on. Each of you answers privately. Nothing is revealed until you both choose to see it.
Hard topics
Politics, abortion, marriage, family planning · the conversations most couples avoid
Illustrative sample
8topics compared
2shared
5to talk through
1slow down
Before you go further
You’re far apart on something one of you called a dealbreaker: abortion.
VOWWISE won’t tell you whether to marry. But differences like this rarely shrink after the wedding. Don’t set, or keep, a wedding date until you’ve talked it all the way through, ideally with a pastor you both trust.
Life · Abortion Slow downOpen in sample
Which is closest to your view of abortion?
Partner AIt’s the taking of an innocent human life. I’d call it murder.This is a dealbreaker for me
Partner BIt should be legal, though I personally wouldn’t choose it.We can disagree on this
Whoa
One of you believes abortion is the taking of a human life. The other doesn’t see it that way. This isn’t a difference you can split down the middle, and for many Christian couples it’s a dealbreaker. Don’t set a wedding date until you’ve talked this all the way through.
Why it mattersIt isn’t only a political question. It shapes how you’d respond to a hard pregnancy, what you teach your kids, where you give, and how you vote.
Talk about itWhere did your view come from: Scripture, your family, an experience? If we faced a frightening diagnosis in pregnancy, what would you want us to do? Could you be at peace married to someone who sees this differently?
Politics CloseOpen in sample
Where would you place yourself politically?
Partner ACentre-rightThis matters to me
Partner BCentre, or it depends on the issueWe can disagree on this
Marriage & sexuality SharedOpen in sample
Which is closest to your view of marriage and sexuality?
Partner AMarriage is between one man and one woman, as Scripture teaches.
Partner BMarriage is between one man and one woman, as Scripture teaches.
An unplanned pregnancy in a really hard season. What would you want?
Birth control and fertility treatment
How would you want our kids educated?
🔒5 more hard topics.
Unplanned pregnancy, birth control and IVF, schooling, politics at home, and faith and culture. Each of you answers privately, and says how much it matters.
These questions describe what each partner believes. They start conversations, ideally with a pastor or mentor you trust.
Red flags check
Patterns worth naming early, based on what each of you said
Illustrative sample
Every Together report checks for patterns that are easy to miss when you’re in love. When something shows up, VOWWISE names it plainly, explains why it matters, and suggests a next step. Most couples see one or two. Some see none.
Severity:Talk about itGet outside wisdomSlow down and get support
Talk about itOpen in sample
Hidden spending
Partner B said they’ve hidden purchases from a past partner “to avoid a fight.” Partner A said honesty about money is non-negotiable.
Why it mattersSmall secrets about money are rarely about money. They’re about whether it feels safe to be fully known. Naming it now, before there’s a joint account, is a gift to both of you.
Next stepPartner B: share one thing you’d normally keep to yourself. Partner A: respond with thanks before anything else.
Get outside wisdomOpen in sample
Faith matters more to one of you
Partner A described faith as “the centre of my life.” Partner B said it’s “important, but I’m still figuring it out,” and that they go to church “mostly for you.”
Why it mattersThis isn’t about who’s more spiritual. It’s about whether you’re walking in the same direction or one of you is following the other. That difference grows after the wedding, not before.
“Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity?”
2 Corinthians 6:14 · WEB
Next stepSit down with a pastor you both trust. Partner B: the goal is honesty about where you are, not performance.
Slow down and get support
Anger when disagreed with. One of you said the other “gets scary” in arguments.
Get outside wisdom
Pressure around physical boundaries. One of you said you’ve given in to avoid conflict.
Talk about it
Pulling away from friends and family since the relationship started.
Get outside wisdom
Out of work with no plan, and one partner quietly carrying the load.
Talk about it
Debt that hasn’t been fully disclosed before the wedding.
Get outside wisdom
Patterns around alcohol, pornography, or other habits one of you wants to change.
🔒Every Together report checks 13 patterns.
Including anger, control, boundaries, isolation, secrecy, and habits. Members see what showed up, why it matters, and what to do next.
Your safety comes first. If you ever feel unsafe or threatened, call 911 in an emergency, or reach out to a local crisis line or counsellor. No report replaces that.
The red flags check reflects what each partner reports. It can’t diagnose anything or see what wasn’t said. If something here worries you, talk to a pastor, counsellor, or trusted friend.
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The difference
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No swiping. No rating how attractive someone is. VOWWISE exists to encourage holiness, wisdom, honest conversations, and intentional relationships, starting with your relationship with God.
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The venue
The dress and the suit
The guest list
The playlist
The honeymoon
What actually shapes a marriage
Where God is in your relationship
How you fight, and how you repair
Money, debt, and generosity
Kids, family, and boundaries
What “for better or worse” means to each of you
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What you get
Everything inside one subscription.
For you and your partner. Nothing locked behind a second payment.
01
God First Foundation
The personal assessment that starts everything.
15 areas of faith and character
Your story, strengths, and blind spots
Private, at your own pace
About 25 minutes
02
Foundation report
A mirror for your own walk with God.
Deep dives on your growth areas
Patterns to watch in yourself
A 4-week Scripture plan
Ready instantly
03
Together report
Where you align, and where to talk next.
14 deep dives with the nitty-gritty
Real-life scenarios and what’s underneath
30-day conversation plan
Unlocks when you both finish
04
Unspoken Questions
The things you’ve wondered but haven’t asked.
8 questions, answered privately
Dealbreakers you share, and don’t
Hard topics: politics, abortion, marriage
Guided help for the hard one
About 15 minutes
05
Red flags check
Patterns that are easy to miss when you’re in love.
13 patterns checked
Plain explanation of why each matters
A clear next step for each
Included in every Together report
06
Covenant journey
Eight weeks of premarital preparation.
Weekly lesson and Scripture
Exercises to do together
Optional pastor or mentor access
About 1 hour a week
07
Stories & Conversation Deck
Real-life scenarios and questions for date night.
Every Real-Life Story
Conversation Deck for date nights
New content every month
2–5 minutes each
08
Journal & downloads
Keep what you’re learning.
Private journal
Growth plans you can track
Every report as a PDF
Yours to keep
Put it in perspective
Less than one session of almost anything else.
Premarital counselling$600–$1,500Typically 6–8 sessions at $100–$200 each. Worth it, and VOWWISE makes those sessions go deeper.
Weekend couples retreat$400–$1,200Registration, lodging, and travel for two.
Books and workbooks$40–$80Helpful, but nothing compares your answers or flags what you missed.
VOWWISE, 3 months$24.97First month $4.99, then $9.99. Both of you, every report, the full Covenant journey.
Typical ranges in Canada. Prices vary by city and provider. VOWWISE isn’t a replacement for counselling. It’s the best way to show up to it ready.
Pricing
One plan. Everything, for both of you.
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The complete God First foundation and your personal report
Connect your partner: independent answers, private reveal
Your full Together report and every hard conversation
The 8-week Covenant premarital journey
Every Real-Life Story, the Conversation Deck and new content monthly
Private journal, growth plans and downloadable reports
Cancel anytime. You keep access until the end of your billing month.
Jesus ChristFully God and fully man, who died for our sins and rose again.
Saved by graceSalvation is by grace through faith in Jesus, not by our performance.
The authority of ScriptureThe Bible is God’s Word and our guide for faith and life.
A call to holinessFollowing Jesus shapes how we date, love, and live.
Marriage as covenantA sacred, lifelong promise before God, not a contract.
The local churchVOWWISE supports your church community. It never replaces it.
Non-denominational. On secondary questions, like baptism or worship style, we leave room for your church’s convictions. Scripture quoted from the World English Bible.
Questions
Honest answers.
Build your foundation in Christ first.
Chemistry fades. Character doesn’t. Before you build a future together, start with the One who holds it.